What is going on here????

READ AT YOUR OWN RISK.....I am going to spend a few minutes ranting about things I just don't understand and if you do please explain this all to me.

A few weeks ago I was at Wendy's school talking to a few other moms. They were both fellow Latter-day Saints so we were discussing my favorite topic... Politics. There was this one man going on and on about how great it is to finally have a black president, blah blah blah blah. Ok boring. I mentioned that I could care less about him being black I didn't like his policies. I don't know how exactly it came up, but one of the fellow latter-day saint mothers said: 'well your not getting any sympathy from me I voted for him." Well the first question that came out of my mouth was, "Aren't you LDS?" Of course I already knew the answer to that. "Yes I am." She stated so proudly.
Then my next question was: "Well then how could you support a candidate that is for abortion?"
Her answer: "Abortion is not a big issue. No republican is doing anything to stop it. Barack Obama isn't going to change it either."
I sat there just floored. How could a seemingly intelligent person vote for someone who is for abortion when our church is strongly against that. I know that you don't always have a choice. John McCain doesn't have many redeeming qualities I know, but at least he wasn't for Abortion.
The church website says: "Human life is a sacred gift from God. Elective abortion for personal or social convenience is contrary to the will and the commandments of God. Church members who submit to, perform, encourage, pay for, or arrange for such abortions may lose their membership in the Church." www.lds.org
Then we got on the topic of socialism. She said: "People always bring that subject up with me and you know what, 'I am a socialist.' "
I wanted to ask her how she could be a mormon. I look that up on lds.org and many many many many church leaders have said that socialism leads to communism and that mean a Godless Society.
She wasn't the first member of the Church that I have come across. So PLEASE help me to understand the madness.
I want to hear from anyone who doesn't agree with me and tell me how a good member of the church can vote for Obama.